[閱讀筆記] 卡內基魅力法則2: 微笑

Principle 2 Smile.

"People who smile tend to manage, teach and sell more effectively,

and to raise happier children.

There's far more information in a smile than a frown.

That's why encouragement is a much more effective teaching device than punishment."

-- Professor James V. McConnel, psychologist.

即使是在電話中,因為微笑而產生的聲音渲染力,也具有重大的效用。

要能夠微笑,不是單純地牽動臉部肌肉,

需要有善意、真心、內在的滿足、喜悅及美好的心靈作為基礎、正向的思考方式、站在他人立場來看待事情,

才能夠顯露出真誠的笑容,也才能夠在面對艱難的狀況,依然保持樂觀的心情。

心理會影響行為行為也會影響心理,而行為是更容易被我們控制的,

因此當我們覺得不快樂,試著先想像自己很快樂,以快樂的心情來行動,談話,就會真的快樂起來。

"Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together;

and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will,

we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.

Thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness,

if our cheerfulness be lost,

is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there..."

-- William James, psychologist.

快樂並非取決於外界條件,而在於內在條件,在於我們的思惟模式

"There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."
-- Shakespear.

"It costs nothing, but creates much.

It enriches those who receive, without impoverishing those who give.

It happens in a flash and the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.

None are so rich they can get along without it, and none so poor but are richer for its benefits.

It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign of friends.

It is rest to the weary, daylight to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and Nature's best antidote for trouble.

Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is no earthly good to anybody till it is given away.

...

Nobody needs a smile so much as those who have none left to give!"

-- Some Deparment Store at New York.

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[閱讀筆記] 卡內基魅力法則1: 真誠地對他人感興趣

[閱讀筆記] 卡內基魅力法則2: 微笑

[閱讀筆記] 卡內基魅力法則3: 記住對方的名字

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